The 10th Anniversary Edition of Stumbling Toward the Buddha is on its way to the copy editor. I thought it was going to be a quick and easy project. Just dash off an author note for each of the essays in the original edition. But one of the dangers of writing is that it requires more of you than you’d intended to commit. I say thank you to all the folks whose energy fueled me.
You. For crying out loud, you’ve been reading excerpts for the past few months, and here you are, back again. There’s no greater gift. Thank you.
Jessica Conoley, author, intuitive, coach, speaker, founder of The CE Coaches. Jessica reprised her former role as book editor just for this project. After an initial read of the author notes, she emailed, “Say what you’re not saying.” Her words bonked me on the head and opened up my prose. She and I have been first readers for each other for as long as I’ve been writing for publication. Where you find inspiration in my words, it’s due to a partnership between Jessica’s heart and mine.
Cori Smith, founder of BLK&BRWN A Smart Bookstore, the shelves stocked exclusively with books by black, brown, and indigenous authors. The BLK&BRWN ecosystem gave me friends, audience, purpose, and a fire in the belly for black feminism. When I thought up the idea for a 10th Anniversary Edition, Cori was the first person I told. Because she loved it, I kept going. While I was working on the new edition, she hosted a reading of the original Stumbling. Her interview questions—swear to god, she knew my book better than I did.
Yolanda Williams, sister girlfriend since we met as college freshmen. Throughout the writing of this book, she told me to keep speaking my truth. Whenever reluctance crept into my work, I remembered.
Margie Towner and I also met as college freshmen. We were friends who ran into each other’s arms, if we’d been apart for more than an hour. We lost track for decades, when she found me online through my blog. We phone every single week to talk about our writing projects. Also yard work, grandchildren, music, and international affairs. Ask me what I do for self care; I’ll answer “Margie!”
Other Downeys contributed their writing energies to my creative identity. Granny Mum—Hellena Johnson Downey 1874-1952 (Chicago Defender articles), Mon—Beaulah Downey 1898-2003 (Ottumwa Courier essay) Bill Downey, Sr. 1922-1994 (five books, syndicated column), Al Downey, Sr. (graphic novels), Michael Downey (playwright), Courtney Downey (novels).
My sister Michelle Downey Lawyer brought Mozart and Beyoncè into my creative life. She also passed on messages of encouragement from the ancestors.
My brother Michael Downey filled in family history. He responded to excerpts of this project with deep insights based on his experience as a drama professor, playwright, and director.
Carolyn Celestine, yoga teacher, kept me grounded in time and space, with class three times a week. Creativity required roots to bring me back from floating in the aether.
Necia Gamby, massage therapist, dug the knots from my back when unpleasant epiphanies clenched me into a ball of tension.
Paid subscribers to Dawn Downey’s Teachable Moments (Lisa Daly, Tina DuBosque, Marilyn Jahnke, Anne Melia, Nicola Mendenhall, Cheryl Wilfong, Peg Willson, and Erica Zeitz) validated my writing ethos and helped cover production costs of this book. Month after month, their dollars told me that my words were valuable.
Founding subscriber and girlfriend, Usha Rengachary brought me out of reclusiveness. We hung out every Saturday, fueling my imagination with trips around town to support BIPOC creatives. Her vision showed me the energetic connections among justice, art, and idli.
Nicky Mendenhall, Margie Towner, Ben Worth, and Erica Zeitz shared their reactions after I read “Precious Moments” at an online author reading. I hesitated to express what I initially felt, but these white friends were antidotes to the white gaze. Their responses clarified my thoughts about the Author Note for that essay.
Julie Tenenbaum, as she has with all my books, protected me from perfectionism. I did not obsess about verb tense (which is my habit), because I knew Julie would catch every misuse of language that slipped onto these pages. It was a luxury to be able to focus on content.
Dan Blank, through The Creative Shift newsletter and its previous iterations, nudged me into a consistent writing/publishing routine, always stressing generosity. He validated my intuition on the one hand and expanded my comfort zone on the other.
Marcia Meier edited the original Stumbling. Her intuition about abuse in my family led to the essay “The Doll House,” which to this day continues to heave up insights like aftershocks.
Matthew Flickstein guided me through the teachings of the Buddha during the years when the events in Stumbling took place. The last advice Matt gave me was, “Forget everything you learned here. Go live your life.” So, here I go. Thank you, Matt.
Phil Bohlander was my therapist, with a magic bag of soul-fixing tools. I once went to him with an amorphous feeling of threat. Phil, I don’t know what’s wrong. I don’t feel safe anywhere lately. My white Jewish Buddhist therapist had the timing of a stand-up. “Of course not, it’s open season on Black people.” A few minutes after I wrote the words Thank you, Phil in the author note for “Toadstools,” I got a phone call. Phil had just died. It’s still open season on Black people. I’ve come undone again. If Phil were here, he’d put me back together. He was thoughtful enough to leave behind his toolkit.
Ben. Big Sweetie, Vitamin B., Sugar Daddy. Husband. Every day, he encouraged me to “go mine some words.” He fulfilled every writer’s fantasy—laughed at the funny words, teared up at the sad ones. And then, he sang my praises to everyone he met. Throughout this project (and, you know, life), he’s been head cheerleader. Thank you, honey.
You. For crying out loud, you’ve been reading excerpts for the past few months, and here you are, back again. There’s no greater gift. Thank you.
Jessica Conoley, author, intuitive, coach, speaker, founder of The CE Coaches. Jessica reprised her former role as book editor just for this project. After an initial read of the author notes, she emailed, “Say what you’re not saying.” Her words bonked me on the head and opened up my prose. She and I have been first readers for each other for as long as I’ve been writing for publication. Where you find inspiration in my words, it’s due to a partnership between Jessica’s heart and mine.
Cori Smith, founder of BLK&BRWN A Smart Bookstore, the shelves stocked exclusively with books by black, brown, and indigenous authors. The BLK&BRWN ecosystem gave me friends, audience, purpose, and a fire in the belly for black feminism. When I thought up the idea for a 10th Anniversary Edition, Cori was the first person I told. Because she loved it, I kept going. While I was working on the new edition, she hosted a reading of the original Stumbling. Her interview questions—swear to god, she knew my book better than I did.
Yolanda Williams, sister girlfriend since we met as college freshmen. Throughout the writing of this book, she told me to keep speaking my truth. Whenever reluctance crept into my work, I remembered.
Margie Towner and I also met as college freshmen. We were friends who ran into each other’s arms, if we’d been apart for more than an hour. We lost track for decades, when she found me online through my blog. We phone every single week to talk about our writing projects. Also yard work, grandchildren, music, and international affairs. Ask me what I do for self care; I’ll answer “Margie!”
Other Downeys contributed their writing energies to my creative identity. Granny Mum—Hellena Johnson Downey 1874-1952 (Chicago Defender articles), Mon—Beaulah Downey 1898-2003 (Ottumwa Courier essay) Bill Downey, Sr. 1922-1994 (five books, syndicated column), Al Downey, Sr. (graphic novels), Michael Downey (playwright), Courtney Downey (novels).
My sister Michelle Downey Lawyer brought Mozart and Beyoncè into my creative life. She also passed on messages of encouragement from the ancestors.
My brother Michael Downey filled in family history. He responded to excerpts of this project with deep insights based on his experience as a drama professor, playwright, and director.
Carolyn Celestine, yoga teacher, kept me grounded in time and space, with class three times a week. Creativity required roots to bring me back from floating in the aether.
Necia Gamby, massage therapist, dug the knots from my back when unpleasant epiphanies clenched me into a ball of tension.
Paid subscribers to Dawn Downey’s Teachable Moments (Lisa Daly, Tina DuBosque, Marilyn Jahnke, Anne Melia, Nicola Mendenhall, Cheryl Wilfong, Peg Willson, and Erica Zeitz) validated my writing ethos and helped cover production costs of this book. Month after month, their dollars told me that my words were valuable.
Founding subscriber and girlfriend, Usha Rengachary brought me out of reclusiveness. We hung out every Saturday, fueling my imagination with trips around town to support BIPOC creatives. Her vision showed me the energetic connections among justice, art, and idli.
Nicky Mendenhall, Margie Towner, Ben Worth, and Erica Zeitz shared their reactions after I read “Precious Moments” at an online author reading. I hesitated to express what I initially felt, but these white friends were antidotes to the white gaze. Their responses clarified my thoughts about the Author Note for that essay.
Julie Tenenbaum, as she has with all my books, protected me from perfectionism. I did not obsess about verb tense (which is my habit), because I knew Julie would catch every misuse of language that slipped onto these pages. It was a luxury to be able to focus on content.
Dan Blank, through The Creative Shift newsletter and its previous iterations, nudged me into a consistent writing/publishing routine, always stressing generosity. He validated my intuition on the one hand and expanded my comfort zone on the other.
Marcia Meier edited the original Stumbling. Her intuition about abuse in my family led to the essay “The Doll House,” which to this day continues to heave up insights like aftershocks.
Matthew Flickstein guided me through the teachings of the Buddha during the years when the events in Stumbling took place. The last advice Matt gave me was, “Forget everything you learned here. Go live your life.” So, here I go. Thank you, Matt.
Phil Bohlander was my therapist, with a magic bag of soul-fixing tools. I once went to him with an amorphous feeling of threat. Phil, I don’t know what’s wrong. I don’t feel safe anywhere lately. My white Jewish Buddhist therapist had the timing of a stand-up. “Of course not, it’s open season on Black people.” A few minutes after I wrote the words Thank you, Phil in the author note for “Toadstools,” I got a phone call. Phil had just died. It’s still open season on Black people. I’ve come undone again. If Phil were here, he’d put me back together. He was thoughtful enough to leave behind his toolkit.
Ben. Big Sweetie, Vitamin B., Sugar Daddy. Husband. Every day, he encouraged me to “go mine some words.” He fulfilled every writer’s fantasy—laughed at the funny words, teared up at the sad ones. And then, he sang my praises to everyone he met. Throughout this project (and, you know, life), he’s been head cheerleader. Thank you, honey.
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